For those of you who’ve already made your New Year’s resolutions here’s my advice — throw them out. My secret to transforming New Year’s resolutions into reality is to get rid of them. Put simply, resolutions don’t work. They don’t work because they are an attack on ourselves. Resolutions are made from a state of feeling that we’ve failed in some way, that we are not enough, that if only we could change this or that about ourselves we would be better. Positive change will never manifest from such a low vibrational state.

The secret to manifesting the health, abundance, and life you desire is by setting goals. Goals have more success because their seeds are planted in a much higher vibrational state.

Goals empower. Resolutions punish. 

Goals focus on what you want to create. Resolutions focus on what you want to destroy.

Goals honor your innate gifts. Resolutions trample on your humanity. 

Goals emanate soul power. Resolutions reside in shame. 

Goals are creative. Resolutions are reactive.

Goals manifest. Resolutions fail. 

A goal is a plan with a clear direction mapped out on how to achieve it. Resolutions are fantasies with no foundation.

In 2021, instead of resolutions I invite you to create goals, sticking to these three golden steps:

#1 Set them in February

While I’m doing a 21-day mind, body, spirit reset this month, I’ll wait until February to develop my goals. An early year mini health reset is optimal and achievable because unlike a New Year’s resolution there is no overwhelming obligation to make the practices permanent. Therefore the mind has less resistance to them. By February the rush, pressure, and intensity of the New Year has calmed down a bit and you’re able to really take time to reflect on long-term meaningful goals. I create one, five, and ten year goals that work in harmony to create a full picture of what I want life to look like in the decade ahead.

#2 Keep your Goals to Yourself

There’s a school of thought that by sharing your goals with friends and family others not only offer encouragement and support, but hold you accountable. I disagree. Friends and family may be our biggest cheerleaders but they are also our biggest enablers. Therefore if an excuse for why you can’t make progress or stay on track with a goal is good enough for you, it’ll be good enough for them. Further, goals are sacred seeds that are yours and yours alone to cultivate. They should be kept away from the fear, insecurity, and doubts of others who don’t understand them or can’t see how it’s possible for you to make them happen. You’re dedication and commitment needs to be guarded from any energy that will make you doubt yourself. When it comes to goals, stay quiet.

#3 Focus on Receiving

Instead of focusing on what you want to release, which is usually the main thread of a resolution, a goal should focus on what you want to receive. The mind adjusts easier to adding things to your life, than it does to taking things away. The irony is that when you add positive, healthy, interesting, and new practices to your life the old, tired, habitual elements seem to fade away on their own. You won’t have to struggle to let things go, you simply won’t have the attention for them anymore because you’ll be so focused on all the beautiful and welcome additions. As you prepare to set goals next month, spend the next few weeks jotting down positive thoughts and ideas for what you would like to create in your life.