We are all creatives. To say you are not a creative is to say you are not alive. Being a creative doesn’t mean you spend hours writing or sketching or designing. Sure, it can be all those things, but at its core being a creative simply means that you are in a state of creation instead of reaction. Creation is our natural state. Reaction is a learned behavior. When we are not creating we are surviving. I’ve been there — in a constant state of reaction to the outside world, so worried about the day or what tomorrow will bring that you can barely eat or sleep from the stress. 

The magic of what it means to be a creative lies in pulling all of your attention away from reacting to everything going in your life and transforming from survival to creative mode. To make the leap you have to have the courage and fortitude to believe in the unseen. You have to get quiet and still enough to allow the power of the unseen to come forth and grace you with its gifts. 

Whether you want to write, draw, design, curate a garden, develop culinary skills, or simply live a more purposeful and aligned life . . . here are seven secrets that will open the door to welcoming the creative source.

#1 Make Time 

There are as many hours in a day as you put into them. If you allow the hours to pass, they will. If you design the hours — instead of checking your phone, watching endless television, having incessant conversations with others, or sleeping in — you will find the time. All you need is one hour spent in creative mode. One hour spent focused on nothing else but that which makes your heart dance. Only then, will you discover that time bends and you have more hours in a day than you realize. Hours spent creating are the richest, most luxurious, and soul nourishing of the day and they will have a powerful and transformative effect on you.

#2 Create the Conditions 

In my late twenties, when I first starting taking my writing seriously, I would be haunted by a feeling of not knowing what to write. If only I had the idea, I would say to myself. At the time I was working long hours as a TV reporter in Manhattan, going out to dinners and clubs, in an on again, off again relationship. However it wasn’t until I made huge changes in my life that the writing began to flow. That is not to say you have to quit your job, end your relationship, or stop having a social life to become a creator. But if I learned one grand lesson in becoming a creative it is this — creation does not happen without destruction. You must be willing to let go of that which weighs you down, your addictions, your habits, your patterns and unhealthy desires in order to make space for your inner world to reveal itself to you. Embracing the conditions to create starts with silence. It begins with the space in between the hectic life and the artist’s way. It starts in a quiet, solitary, delicate place of just you and your SELF.

#3 Curate a Soundtrack

Whenever I carve out creative time it is inevitable that it sits in between cleaning, or paying bills, or running errands, or for the past three years intense hours of studying the law. This is life. I don’t just sit in my office and waive a magic wand and suddenly the words start to flow. Well actually — I do have a magic wand and it is called music. I have particular music that I ONLY listen to when I sit to create. Whether I am generating business ideas, working on a book, or planning a workshop. When I sit to create I have a soundtrack that lulls me into a trance. Whenever I hear John Williams or the composer Daniel Hope it is as if the muses are invoked and they come and dance with me.

#4 Find a Signature Scent 

Just like music, fragrances have the power to transport us. For me it’s always a Diptyque candle. I know when I light the flame that it’s creative time and every time I smell the sweet scent of jasmine, tubéreuse or blackcurrant berries it’s as if the cells in my body light up and stand at the ready to play in the magic.

#5 Surround Yourself with Totems

In my creative studio I have a number of totems that represent my creative life — my letter holder, my French matches, crystals, my favorite broken-in books, my piles of notes. All these items evoke the essence of who I am when I create. I am a keeper of the word, a messenger, a spark, a grounded vibration, a storyteller. Choose totems that remind you of the person you want to evolve into and keep them close during creative time.

#6 Designate a Sacred Object

When I was working on my second novel I bought a Strathmore sketchbook in an art supply store in Soho. I don’t sketch. I was in the store seeking out a favorite pen and the next thing I knew I was picking out the sketchbook. Ever since, I’ve gone through hundred sheet sketchbooks at least every eight months. These sketchbooks are my sacred object. I use them for ideas, notes, inspiration, thoughts — anything and everything to do with whatever it is I am creating. Sometimes I don’t even know what the idea is for and then I’ll look back and realize it fits into something I am working on months or even years later. In fact the idea for my website and this blog came from notes I wrote in a sketchbook two years ago about wanting to create something that would inspire people to give their life a more meaningful hue.

#7 Stop while your Ahead

When the writing is going really good and I feel like I could go on for hours or days even without food or sleep — just on the edge of that twelve hour day is when I stop. I stop and I make myself go to bed or read, or tidy up. It sounds counterintuitive. Why on earth would you STOP when the creative juices are flowing? Because, as Papa Hemingway used to say, you know what happens next — you already have the idea, the thought, the dialogue, the scene. If you stop while you’re ahead you’ll never get stuck. Your creations will pull you back like a magnet, and the next time you sit to create you’ll know where to start. 🤍